It's Tough

Life is tough.  Things get thrown at us and it's difficult to keep pressing on 24/7/365.  I have doubts and fears and hopes and dreams, the tough part is keeping all those balanced and still giving 100% to my marriage and life... not to mention balancing school and work with all those things. I guess someday I will look back with my husband and say "wow, look how far we've come" and something that keeps me looking forward to that moment whenever it eventually comes is simple words from my husband "I want a house and 10 kids with you.  Wherever you go, I go babe.  I love you oh so much!!!!" Now I know completely sappy but that is so what I needed to hear. Sometimes it's tough going through life not sure where you will end up but all that seems to be better when you know someone has your back and will be right there with you through thick and thin!

So I keep pressing on and enjoying time with my husband and know eventually everything will work itself out for the better!

Boundaries

Boundaries is something we all deal with on a daily bases.  What is not my business or what of my business is no one else's?  There's a fine line when you get married on the boundaries that change from just yours to you and your spouses and how those boundaries that you had or they had with their parents change drastically.  It is no longer your parents business what you do on a daily basis, what career you choose, what bills you have, where you live or what life choices you make.  Those all become up to you and your spouse. 

I am the youngest in my family and am very very close to my parents as well as my brother and his family, I tell them just about everything (meaning everything I choose to share with them). We are a tight family, with our problems of course but we are still very close.  They don't ask about personal stuff, I choose to share it.  Mom may ask "are you guys doing ok?" and will leave everything else alone.  Those things I consider "healthy" boundaries, as in I share what I want and she doesn't dig for more than what I am willing to share.

My husband is also the youngest in his family and is not very close to his parents anymore, he is close to his brothers but no so much his sister.  Family dynamics are different than my families (not that they are wrong, just different) and with those different dynamics, Alex chooses to share very little with his family about our lives and about our choices.  This is his choice and I respect it because we come from different backgrounds.  The thing that defines unhealthy boundaries in my opinion is them asking things like "paying you bills on time? or why don't you pay this? or that? or why didn't you come see us when Corrine was out of town?" I define those questions as unhealthy because first and foremost our financial status is not their business considering they have cause more harm than good to that situation in more ways than one that I will not mention here and asking their son to do something while his spouse is out of town to benefit their needs to feel like his is not married is not okay. 

Our boundaries are very different between our parents because we would share anything with my family and choose to be conservative with what we share with his.  Our boundaries are different because everyone is different.  I could not have the same conversations I have with my parents with anyone else because the boundaries to someone else would be different. 

I like boundaries they make it so I don't have to share more than I would like because somethings are just not anyone else's business and I enjoy the fact that I don't have to explain any more than "I prefer not to discuss this with you" or "that's not really any concern of yours" or the blunt "excuse me, that's none of your business".  I choose to try to be nice to everyone... it doesn't always work... seems as though I roll my eyes when I believe someone is trying to turn the situation in their favor and I have no patience for that. So I will try to not roll my eyes and just smile and nod from now on and get on with my boundaries that I so dearly love!

Happy Monday!

So today is the day (or actually yesterday was) when I started my new morning routine! I woke up at 7 yesterday and went to the gym for over an hour! Yes, I'm pretty darn proud of me... it was tough with my warm husband and pup still in bed but I totally managed to kick start my workout routine! I know, I know totally not me, getting up before the sun is not my cup of tea nor will it ever be but in a month my clinical round starts at 7 and I will be leaving at 5AM! (HOLY CAMOLIE!- I think that was the first time I seen it in writing! YIKES! Keep thinking big picture!) So this is my way of kick starting getting up early and working out so that when I just have to get up and go to school I will be somewhat used to the routine minus sweat and the smell of the gym!  

Today I did however allow myself to sleep in a bit, and I enjoyed it greatly! There's just something about getting to sleep in on a Monday that makes everything wrong in the world seem a little better!  Now off to the gym and the rest of my to do list!

My list for today:
Dishes
Gym
Homework
Test
Clean, Clean and Clean some more!
Finishing my latest book... then passing it along to someone else because its that good!
Working on my book
Waiting for hubs to get home!

Hope you're having a wonderful Monday thus far and hope it continues to get better! Much Love!

A new adventure!

I just have to tell you how thankful I am for you! That you take the time to read my blog and leave encouraging comments.  You really brighten my day and I greatly appreciate it!

I am super excited to share with you all that I will be making some huge drastic changes in my life and also with Galli Bottom Designs.  When I say drastic maybe they really aren't so much but it feel like it to me! I will be revealing little changes over the next two weeks and hope you will join in on this little adventure of mine (oh and pray I don't drive my hubby insane! HEHE!)

On Sunday (or really all weekend) I was sharing with my hubby once again my hopes and dreams for our life and the future! I told him my (on of many) business plans (if you need one let me know.... I'm usually swarming with them) and how "it's what my heart really wants to do" and "I've been praying about it."  My supportive husband says "go for it!" Yes, I knew deep down he would say it! He has always told me to follow my dreams.  I then rebutted with "what if it doesn't work?" or "what if I fail?" (I hate how human nature always has this negative little bird in your ear telling you, you can't, you'll fail or what if!) He says "go for it!" Well okay then!  I then laid in bed all night wide awake, talking to God.  I asked Him to give me a vision, designs and an edge.  Well, all I have to say is be careful what you ask for, I spent all night tossing in turning, unable to shut of my brain, I took notes so when I finally fell asleep at 11 am I wouldn't forget all the goodies in my head! (FYI counting sheep, counting backwards from 100 by 3s and random other counts... DO NOT WORK! at least not for me!)

So financially we are in no position to give up my pay completely so I have decided on a part time job (somewhere) and full-time new business.  I am thankful for a hubby who is working two jobs so that we have a little extra spending money by the way! He truly is an amazing man! We have talked about this and the biggest pro is that I will be able to work my schedule around his and we will be able to see each other more!

Glad we don't know what lies ahead on this road of life... otherwise we may forget to live!

I'm excited for this new adventure in our life as well as a little scared!  It will not be an easy adventure by any means but I feel like if I don't go for it (even if it doesn't work out) I will wonder what could have been!

My one and only

This is my amazing hubby!

Words can not decribe how much this man means to me,

he is probably the only one who can get under my skin too!

The superheros on the table,

yes on the kitchen table...

I asked for them to be moved to his special place,

but they are still there... on the table!

But all joking aside...

He is the best thing that has ever been given to me!

I have this amazing man to share my life with!

He makes me laugh until I cry and if I am crying he can make me laugh!

He is so extremely special in so many different ways.

He is intelligent,

funny,

sweet,

sexy,

unique,

genuine,

fun,

great with kids (maybe still one at heart),

and

game for anything!

I may not know what tomorrow hold, neither one of us is 1000% sure

where we want to be in 5 years

other than together!

I am thankful I have this wonderful man to go through this crazy journey of life with me!

He is an amazing man, my amazing husband!

Changes

Change is a constant thing it seems.  I dont really mind it too much but sometimes its a little overwhelming.  As I switch jobs once again, finish up a semester, and start another semester.  It just seems like my life is filled with all kinds of little changes.  I know there is a purpose to all the changes and I may not know what that is for a while, but I trust that God is in control of my every situation.  Sometimes I wish I could just slow time down for a few seconds at least.  It's just all flying by... it seems like yesterday we were planning our wedding but in all reality that was several months ago and we have been married for almost 5 months!  Who knows what tomorrow holds for us, probably more change but thankfully I dont have to worry about that because my faith is in my Savior and He holds all my tomorrows in His hands!

Life is good...

Life is good, inspite of everything that occured yesterday, I can honestly say that I am content with my life and it is good. I know that bad days are going to happen but life goes on and I hope that people will try to realize that petty things are not the end of the world. So far today has been amazing... slept in, talked to my mom on the cell, went to lunch with my amazing hubby at Red Robin, return something at Target with him and then took him back to work, I then came home to print off my last paper in my nursing class for this semester and now just blogging and reading a little in my comm class before going to school at 5. The only bummer to today is going to work tonight as well but I can deal, I like my job and am very thankful to work with great people! On days where I am facing a 12 hour shift as well as class if I can say life is good then it really must be :)

On another note, only 2 weeks or so left in this semester! I can't believe how fast this program is flying by! So far I have learned a lot and love every moment of it! I am thankful that I am able to do it before we start having babies and I know that all this hard work will pay off in the end! Only a year left! or well 6 semesters after this one! I did have the weeks all counted down but I lost count! Im excited to see what the future holds... clinicals start the 3rd week in February and I can't wait!